You have to fill your own cup to be able to fill other cups, because you can't fill other cups from an empty cup.
You have to put yourself first! Being comfortable and happy with yourself allows you to have a better relationship with the world and give more joy.
If you are expecting approval from the rest of the world other than your own, you create a dependance with other people to feel good about yourself.
Action Nº1 I do to love and be more confident about myself.
Meditate:
I know you have heard this a million times and maybe you have tried it one or two times and it didn't work for you or you didn't know how to do it, but I'm serious, give it a try. Nowadays there is a lot of guided meditations on the internet that will help you.
Meditating helps me be more grateful, more in peace and connected with myself and the world, more calm and the thing that I enjoy the most is being more present and happy. It also helps so much with not getting mad with silly things and just makes everyday life easier. If its your first time meditating, I really recommend to you to try 21 days of meditation by Jess Ray in audible. This list of short guided meditations is super good because it has 21 different meditations and you can find the one you like the most and after 21 days you really build the habit. Just give it a try and tell me what you think.